Fathers

So as some of you already know, I was up in Canada this past week at my aunts house. Back home now on my last day of vacation feeling like the guy on the suddaffed commercial with the balloon head. Disconnected. With the weather going down under, I will have to make preparations to hibernate. Also at my aunts house was my dad, step mom & my new baby sis. I haven't seen my dad in over 12 yrs! I think in travelling up there, I was hoping to piece together my childhood & timeline of things. Since my parents got divorced & I had to choose who I would live with, things were crazy, & feelings were cloudy. But this week was great & weird at the same time. Both my dad & I are now fathers, him again. They recently adopted a polish girl, who is 3 months older than Tally. So I have a sister & a daughter in diapers. Weird? a little. Tally now has an aunt Julia, Julie, & Jessie. It was also weird driving my dad around. The key yrs of my life transitioning from adolecence to young adult has him MIA. So developing a new respect for each other was valuable. I'm just glad Jen got to meet some more of my family & feel a part of it. I've always been a firm believer in never forgetting where I have come from. For me, that is an orphanage in Bangalore, India. & restoring my relationship with my adoptive dad & to hear him say to me before I left Canada, "I'm proud of you, you've done well for yourself." was priceless! It was closeure to a longing for approval from him who was so busy providing that he forgot to love. It was worth the $80 in gas to make this reunion happen. Anyway, I've been long. I guess all I can say is, if you have good parents, imperfect parents, bad parents... Love them anyways. They were major players in getting you where you are today! They prob. did the best with what they could. I'm out
ps. for what it's worth. FYI. It is easy to take a child back & forth across the USA & Canadian border. All you have to say is, "the child is ours" No ID required. Suprising? Scary? U decide.

Canadian Thanksgiving!

So I am currently in Canada, Toronto to be precise, visiting my aunt & reuniting with my dad, step mom & new baby sis who are from Poland also visiting my aunt. So it's a partial family reunion. It's weird for both my dad & I on many levels. The last time I saw him was 10yrs ago & I was a kid with no clue about life. Now I am a young adult with a thought about life. Ha. On top of that, my dad is now a grandfather & a father in the same year, my Natalia now also has an aunt who is in diapers, & I have a sister & daughter in diapers. & so the connection goes on. I do miss my family & it has been nice so far to connect. Apparently Canada also celebrates thankgiving here but on the 9th of Oct. So this year I will be celebrating it twice. I love the food up here. Not bec I'm in Canada, but bec between my aunt, uncle & dad, the indian food just keeps on rolling out of the kitchen!hmmmmm I am in food bliss. I have missed the spices of my country. I am trying to get Jen to learn a few things to take back with us. As for now, Natalia & Julia(my baby sis) are busy with their morning naps, but will soon be up & about fighting for attention! haha. From north of the border, I'm out.